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The people that have had influence on me are the most important humans beings, my family.

As a mother of six(5 boys and 1 girl), I have been a 'stay-at-home-mom' for the last 25.5 years along with homeschooling my crew. There is not a more exhausting or more worthwhile way to have spent these last 25.5 years. I am blessed that I 'get to' do this job! I am thankful my husband thinks this is important because we certainly don't drive a fancy car nor are we travelling the world. #4 & #5 will graduate from our homeschool this year and I think I will be almost lost when I am down to 'just one'. :-) Best job in the world!

You are an amazing husband who clearly appreciates his wife. I'm a SAHM of 3 boys 8,5,3 and a girl 1. Also a full time university student studying Bachelor of Primary education. I have always said I have 4 full time jobs and for what mothers do we don't get paid enough and you have just proved that. We do it for our family not for the money that's why we don't complain or even take a toilet break some days. You are very lucky to have a loving wife and she is lucky to have such an appreciative husband.

You are absolutely correct. Homeschooling moms should not be compared to public school teachers. They should be compared to private tutors which make way more. Public school is the bottom rung of education for a lot of the reasons you mentioned. The level of education that my kids 5 -7 can not even be compared to public schools. My kids are not gifted but they both were reading by 4. Shoot my 5 year old does division in his head. My 7 year old reads on a 4th grade level and is in the middle of 3rd grade math. So you are right it would be an insult to my wife to compare what she does to what you do. Two completely different classes of education and sorry but you are on the short end.

Actually, most of the chores you mention are also performed by single people or couples without kids (especially the care of elderly parents). They should be recognized too, then.

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@ Brianne

In a previous life I used to also complain about teachers (in Ontario excellent pay summers off and a great pension) being over paid and such till I had to a small class of kids ESL, than my cousin became a teacher at an older age and we compared notes. Now days I simply say they earn every penny they make.

Any you're correct there is no comparison to home schooling and teaching a class at a school


[tags: Single Mothers, Social Issues]

So, I just replied to your comment and hit "submit," but I don't think it posted. If it did, and you are having to read another post from me, I apologize. Just scroll on bc this basically says the same as what I just thought I submitted.

I think you entirely missed my point. I am not knocking homeschool teacher, which I stated in my first comment. They are just as valuable as any teacher (or anyone for that matter). I was simply responding to a poster several comments up that compared a public school teacher to a homeschool teacher of ONE or TWO students. Fulfilling the responsibility to ONE or TWO kids is much easier and less demanding than fulfilling a responsibility to over 100 students: therefore,the two are not comparable. The same goes for nurses. I'm no nurse, but I'm sure a patient load of TWO is much less demanding than a patient load of 25 plus. In no way am I placing less value on anyone. I'm simply saying the two are not monetarily equal, and they are not equal as far as numbers go. That's all! Lol!

Responding to some of the things you stated in your comment about planning periods, I have to say you are wrong. Many planning periods are spent tutoring students, catching students up who were absent, contacting parents regarding grades, responding to emails, completing evaluation forms, administering benchmark tests to students who may not even be mine, attending dept meetings, etc. So, no, lots of times planning periods consist of anything but planning. Textbooks are now out the window with all this new technology, so we no longer have everything at our fingertips. You should see the binders I have created over the years that includes my own materials that I made or found online. We don't have everything at our fingertips by no means. I sure wish we did! Lol!

I know enough about homeschool to know that it's not a bad thing. In fact, I am considering homeschooling my daughter eventually because I don't like where the government is headed with education. My best friend taught fifth grade for eleven years before quitting last year to homeschool her children. She has given me lots of information and has told me that it is such a relief to only be responsible for TWO instead of 20 something students. She still works hard, no doubt, but it's less demanding as far as fulfilling her responsibilities.

I agree completely about the reasons parents decide to homeschool. That is a personal choice. It is not a "right or wrong" issue. That was not my point.

You have assumed that I'm possibly bitter. Bitter? Lol! No, in no way am I bitter about my job. My perspective in my job? There are good days and there are bad days just like everything else. Do I love my students? You better believe it! And they know that. There's not much I wouldn't do for my kiddos. I have spent countless hours worrying about a kid for something he/she is going through. I have attended funerals for parents of students. I have comforted students during the loss of a classmate. I sincerely care even when they act as if they don't. I don't think a person could remain in the education field for too long if they didn't love the kids. There are lots of other jobs I could do and make more money, but I choose to stay because overall, I do love my job. You have completely read me wrong.

Looking for validation? No. My validation comes from my Savior who led me to this career field. I'm doing what I was led to do. No validation needed for that. Seeing a student's face when I tell him that he passed the end of year state test that the state predicted he would fail with a 70% chance is priceless. And sometimes the best part of teaching has absolutely nothing to do with teaching but with helping others outside of school. It's a great feeling sending home a coat or school pants with a student who can't afford it.

As far as teaching students while preparing a lunch for them goes, I have never done that, but I do have to walk around daily and monitor cell phone and various technolgy usage while trying to teach. And speaking of lunch, I rarely get one bc there is always a student needing something or there is always something I need to get done within that 25 minute time frame. I'm not complaining bc I choose to work through lunch most days. I rarely even have time to use the restroom during the day, which is usually the only time I'm alone. Once the school day is over, my 15 year old son comes down to my class and about 15 minutes later my 5 year old daughter gets off the bus and we start on her homework (which is not my job but a part of life bc she is my child that I brought into the world) while I'm trying to do my "homework" for the next day. I only have bedtime, too. I'm a mom, too, and I face most of the same parenting challenges as any other parent, whether it's another working parent or a SAHM. We are all in the same boat when it comes to parenting. I'm not arguing that.

Again, in no way am I placing less value on anyone. I probabl

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I accidentally hit submit before I meant to post. I didn't get to edit any mistakes found, which always bothers me, so please excuse any misspelled words. Lol! To continue my post, teachers don't get to leave right after school. There is lots left to do. And summers off are usually summers spent working on next year's plans. Again, I'm not knocking anything that a homeschool parent does. I'm just saying it's not comparable to the pay a public school teacher makes. I'm a mother of two, and I have never felt that helping my children with their homework is comparable to the pay of their teachers. It's called being a mom. If people want to call that a job, then by all means, call it a job. I call it a blessing and a responsibility. Being a mother is not my job. I will always be a mother, but I won't always have a job. I was once a SAHM, but I never referred to that as my job. When I get off work and am with my children, I'm no longer at my job. I'm at home or wherever enjoying time with my family. They are my responsibility because I chose to bring them into the world; they are not and never will be referred to by me as a job. :)

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Most of what you have said is entirely dependent on the state that the homeschooling parent lives in. Many states require homeschooling parents to follow state standards, have their children tested, keep documentation, records, and virtually everything a public school teacher does (granted often on a smaller scale). Similarly, many states DO require the parents to have a degree. You also neglect to mention that there are some things ps teachers are afforded that homeschooling parents aren't. You get a guaranteed planning period, I get bedtime, if my kiddos go to sleep and no one is sick or having bad dreams. You get to send students to detention or the principal when they become "too much to handle" and conference with parents blaming all the misbehavior on them rather than the influence of fellow students or the public school system. Homeschooling parents actually have to address the behavior in a meaningful way, that isn't suspension or detention. You teach one subject, we teach ALL subjects. You pass students up to the next grade, we follow them to the next grade, and often teach K-12 at the same time in the same place (our home). Furthermore, many people choose to homeschool because their children have special needs and the Public School teachers are unwilling or unable to adequately address those needs. In part of your rant, you mention that homeschooling parents get to stay in their own home with their own children all day. Well, you DO get to go home at the end of the day, we remain "teachers" in our own home 24/7. It honestly sounds like you don't like your students and/or your job and perhaps you even have some resentment. I am a homeschooling SAHM of 4 and I have worked in the public school system as a permanent sub before I homeschooled. It is 100% easier to work in the PS than at home. Granted, I was a sub (which can actually be difficult depending on the class and student temperament) but there are hundreds of resources at your fingertips, places to send trouble students, set standards/curriculum, basically a template of what to teach and when. Homeschooling parents often have to design all this themselves, tailor it to several age groups (at the same time), and deal with the cooking and cleaning of the entire household WHILE teaching. When was the last time you made all your students lunch while conducting a lesson on Ancient Egypt? Probably not something that has happened in your experience, but doubtless common for homeschoolers. Yes, PS teachers have a difficult and often thankless job, one that is essential and amazing that takes a very special and committed person, but minimizing what others do merely because you are bitter (at least that is how the post appeared) or because you feel slighted that homeschooling parents are being compared to you when you had to go to college to become a teacher seems both petty and childish. You are doing an amazing thing, shaping young minds at pivotal moments, yet it sounds like making a difference to 100+ students isn't enough and you need or want some kind of validation.